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Normal bladder control
The production of urine is not under our voluntary control, but as adults we have acquired the ability to recognise when our bladder is full, and to be able to hold on to urine until we reach a toilet. We therefore have control over when and where we will pass urine. This control is possible because of messages passing between the brain and the bladder, and our ability to interpret these messages. We can learn to use this mechanism to delay passing urine. 
What to do about your Incontinence
The good news is that seven out of ten women with stress incontinence can become dry, or significantly improved doing pelvic floor exercises. Only a small number of women require surgery.